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Ephesians 4:25
Therefore, putting away falsehood, let every one speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.
Is It Ever Right to Tell a Lie?
I would like to begin this morning by addressing the most notorious but not the most important issue relating to falsehood; namely, the question: Is it ever right to tell a lie? I am going to address the issue, but I am not going to answer the question directly. What I am going to say is this: It is possible to be a person who never intentionally lies and yet be a hardened sinner, living in darkness and cut off from Christ in unbelief; and it is possible to be a person who fears the Lord, walks by faith, and yet feel constrained in extreme, life-threatening situations to oppose evil by lying intentionally.
The reason I say that you can be virtually free from intentional lying and still be unregenerate and bound to sin is that there may be cultural or personal incentives that have nothing to do with God, and yet make you want to have the reputation of dependability—to be known as a person whose word is as good as an oath.
And the reason I say that you can be a godly person who trusts Christ and still feel constrained to lie in extreme, life-threatening situations is that there are several stories in the Bible where this is exactly what happened.
The Hebrew Midwives
For example, in Exodus 1 the Egyptian Pharaoh decides to deplete the strength of the nation of Israel by killing all the boys that are born. He says to the Hebrew midwives in verse 16, “When you serve as a midwife to the Hebrew women, and see them upon the birthstool, if it is a son, you shall kill him; but if it is a daughter, she shall live.”
But, verse 17 says, “The midwives feared God, and did not do as the king of Egypt commanded them, but let the male children live.” When the king of Egypt asked them (v. 18) why they did this, they answered (in v. 19), “Because the Hebrew women are not like the Egyptian women; for they are vigorous and are delivered before the midwife comes to them.”
Now, regardless of how vigorous the Hebrew women were in childbirth, this statement is in effect a lie. It is meant to lead Pharaoh to believe a falsehood, namely, that the midwives were doing their best to obey him but just couldn’t get there in time to make the death look like a stillbirth.
But verse 17 says that the motive behind their disobedience to the king was a genuine fear of God: “They feared God, and did not do as the king of Egypt commanded them.” And in verse 20 it says, “God dealt well with the midwives; and the people multiplied and grew very strong. And because the midwives feared God he gave them families.” So they are not rebuked; they are blessed.
Rahab and the Two Spies
Another example is found in Joshua 2. Joshua sent two men to spy out Jericho, and the king of Jericho found out that they were there. They hid in the house of Rahab the harlot. Verse 6 says that she took them to her roof and covered them with stalks of flax. When the king’s messengers come to Rahab’s house and inquire about the men, she says (in vv. 4–5), “True, men came to me, but I did not know where they came from; and when the gate was closed, at dark, the men went out; where the men went I do not know.”
The rest of the chapter tells how she believed in the God of Israel and pleaded for the deliverance of her family when Jericho would be attacked. Hebrews 11:31 says, “By faith Rahab the harlot did not perish with those who were disobedient, because she had given friendly welcome to the spies.” So the biblical interpretation of her action was that it was done from a heart of faith, even though she lied to the king’s messengers.
So I conclude from these two biblical stories that it is possible to be a person who fears the Lord (like the Hebrew midwives) and acts in faith (like Rahab) and yet feel constrained in extreme, life-threatening situations to oppose evil by lying.
No Specific Biblical Commendation for These Instances
The reason that this is all I am willing to say instead of answering the question: Is it ever right to tell a lie? is that in neither of these cases (nor anywhere else in Scripture that I am aware of) does the Bible explicitly commend or approve the lying itself. The midwives are commended for fearing the Lord and not killing the babies. And Rahab gives evidence of her faith by giving a friendly welcome to the Israelite spies. But her lying is not explicitly commended.
I’ve struggled a long time with how to think and teach about these borderline cases. And I have concluded that pastorally the wisest thing for me to do is to acknowledge that in the fear of God and in the walk of faith worthy saints have chosen to oppose the effects of evil by concealing the truth from wicked men. And having recognized that fact and that possibility, we do well to shift our attention to the overwhelming biblical emphasis on the condemnation of falsehood and lying.
Scripture’s Clear and Heavy Testimony Against Lying
We are going to focus on Ephesians 4:25, but first let me give you some idea from the rest of Scripture how serious this matter is in the eyes of God.
- Proverbs 6:16–17, “There are six things which the Lord hates, seven which are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and a man who sows discord among brothers.”
- Proverbs 12:22, “Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord.”
- Proverbs 12:19, “Truthful lips endure for ever, but a lying tongue is but for a moment.”
- Proverbs 20:17, “Bread gained by deceit is sweet to a man, but afterward his mouth will be full of gravel.”
- Proverbs 21:6, “The getting of treasures by a lying tongue is a fleeting vapor and a snare of death.”
- Revelation 21:7–8, “He who conquers shall have this heritage, and I will be his God and he shall be my son. But as for the cowardly, the faithless, the polluted, as for murderers, fornicators, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their lot shall be in the lake that burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.” (Cf. 21:27; 22:15.)
What I want you to see from these few texts is that we must not play fast and loose with this issue as though it were a matter of indifference to God whether we tell the truth or not. There is some kind of connection between the practice of lying and the condition of the heart that makes biblical writers certain that those who practice lying in their ordinary lives are outside the scope of salvation. So we do well to ponder this matter together.
Where Lying Comes From
You recall that Ephesians 4:25 is a specific, practical instance of verse 22. Verse 22 says, “Put off your old nature which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful lusts [i.e., desires].” Then verse 25 uses the same word for “put off” and says specifically, “Therefore, putting off falsehood, let every one speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.”
So it is clear that falsehood is a specific characteristic of the “old nature” referred to in verse 22. Put off the old nature, specifically, put off falsehood. Why is this helpful? It is helpful because it shows us where lying comes from.
Verse 22 says that the old nature—the pre-conversion nature—is corrupted because of desires, and the thing that makes these desires bad is that they come from deceit. There is nothing wrong with desire in and of itself. What’s bad is when desire goes after the wrong things. And the reason desire goes after the wrong things is because our hearts are is deceived about what is truly desirable.
But now we have seen that lying is one of the characteristics of this old nature. In other words when Paul says that the old nature is corrupt, he means (among other things) that the old nature is a liar. And this means, then, that the corruption of lying comes from the desires of deceit. Very simply this means that the reason we lie is because we have desires that we shouldn’t have, and the reason we have them is because we are deceived about what is truly desirable.
To pick up the lesson from verses 18 and 19, our hardness of heart against God leads to darkness of understanding, and darkness leads to ignorance of what is truly valuable and desirable in life, and ignorance lays us open to all the deceits of Satan who Jesus says is the father of lies (John 8:44).
Deceitful Desires Which Tempt Us to Lie
Let’s be specific and make ourselves aware of some of the deceitful desires that tempt us to lie. I think all the desires that lead people to lie can be summed up in these two: fear and greed. Two kinds of fear and two kinds of greed.
Two Kinds of Fear
Let’s think first about fear. In Matthew 21:23–27 the authority of Jesus is challenged by the chief priests and elders. “By what authority do you do these things?” Before he answers them, he gives them a test question to see if they really love the truth or whether they are only trying to justify themselves and trip him up.
He asks, “The baptism of John, whence was it? From heaven or from men?” Now we can watch a lie in the making. We can see what desires go into the making of a lie. It says (in v. 25) that the chief priests argued with one another and said,
“If we say, ‘From heaven,’ he will say to us, ‘Why then did you not believe him?’ But if we say, ‘From men,’ we are afraid of the multitude; for all hold that John was a prophet.” So they answered Jesus, “We do not know.” And he said to them, “Neither will I tell you by what authority I do these things.”
The chief priests and the elders fail the test. They prove that their deep desire is not for truth. What is it for? It is for personal esteem and physical safety! They are controlled by fear. Two kinds of fear.
First, they fear getting egg on their faces and losing the esteem of the people. They fear being shown wrong. We see this in verse 25: they conclude that they can’t answer Jesus’ question by saying John’s baptism is from heaven. Why? Not because it is untrue—that is quite irrelevant to them. No. It is simply because if they answer that way, they will give Jesus a chance to show them in an inconsistency—”Why then did you not believe him?” So they are driven toward a lie by their desire for the esteem of men and their fear of having to admit an inconsistency.
The second kind of fear that controls them is fear of physical harm. Physical safety is more important than truth. We see this in verse 26: they can’t answer that John’s baptism is from men because the multitudes believe John was a prophet and so the people might get mad and stone the priests!
So instead of giving the answer that they believe is true (namely, from men) they lie. They are evasive, diplomatic, or (as some say) political: they say, “We don’t know!”
So we see the origin of a lie in two kinds of fear: fear of losing personal esteem and fear of getting physically hurt. But note well! These desires for safety and esteem are deceitful desires. Satan is deceiving the chief priests. It is a lie that popular esteem is to be desired more than speaking the truth. It is a lie that physical safety is to be desired more than speaking the truth. Ask the martyrs! Listen to Jesus! Don’t run from persecution by lying or evading a testimony of truth. What does he say? Blessed are you when men persecute you for righteousness’ sake!
And so the lie of the chief priests is produced by the lies of Satan, the father of lies. And that’s how it is with virtually all lying. We are deceived into thinking that the mockery or abuse from some group is more to be feared than the disapproval of God, and so we lie.
Two Kinds of Greed
I said that lying is not just caused by two kinds of fear, but also by two kinds of greed—greed for money and all it can buy, and greed for praise and approval.
Ananias and Sapphira are an example of the first kind of greed. The sold a piece of property and kept back some of the proceeds for themselves and took the rest of it to the apostles, presenting it as the whole sum. Peter said (in Acts 5:3), “Ananias, why has Satan filled your heart to lie to the Holy Spirit?” Satan is on hand again in his usual role. How did he get Ananias to lie to Peter and to God?
He deceived Ananias into thinking that it is more blessed to keep than to give. And that is a lie—exactly the opposite of the word of Christ. Satan probably suggested to Ananias all the possible expenses that might be coming up, and all the legitimate pleasures that he and his wife Sapphira have gone without all these years. So a deceitful desire was born from a lie and gave birth to a lie. And Ananias dropped dead and so did his wife. And great fear came upon the whole church. The lying tongue is an abomination to God.
That is one kind of greed that produces lying—the greed for money and what it can buy. The other kind of greed that produces lying is greed for praise or power or position or approval. I will leave the examples here to your own imagination. We must hasten on to the positive half of the command in Ephesians 4:25.
The Truth of Jesus Which Begets Truthfulness
What we have seen in the connection between verses 22 and 25 is that the old nature is given to lying because it is enslaved to desires that are based on deceit. The lies of Satan beget the lies of sinners. So Paul says, “Put off that old nature—put off lying—and put on the new nature—the nature created by God and marked by righteousness and holiness that come not from Satanic deceit but from the truth” (v. 24).
The lies of Satan that beget lies of sinners have to be replaced by the truth of Jesus (v. 21) that begets truthfulness of saints. This is what is meant in verse 23 by the renewing of the spirit of the mind. The mind has to be filled with Satan-fighting truth. And out of that truth will come righteousness and holiness, and part of this holiness is what verse 25 calls, “speaking truth with your neighbor.”
O, how I wish we had time to go into all the truth of God’s character and promises that take away the impulse to lie. There are such incredibly great promises for God’s people that if we really believed them, the fear and greed that tempt us to lie would melt like icicles under an April sun and we would be full of freedom and light—and, therefore, truth. Truth-telling is a “work of faith” (1 Thessalonians 1:3), because faith in the goodness and sovereign power of God conquers the deceitful craving for esteem and safety and money and power that causes us to distort the truth in order to gain a worldly advantage.
“Members of One Another”
But instead of going into all those promises, let’s close by focusing briefly on the one truth Paul chooses to focus on at the end of verse 25. Paul says, “Let every one speak the truth with his neighbor—(WHY?)—FOR WE ARE MEMBERS ONE OF ANOTHER.”
So out of all the relationships he could have focused on, he chooses to admonish us to tell the truth to our fellow Christians, because we are all members of one body, and therefore members of each other (1:23; 2:16; 3:6; 4:16; 5:28–30).
I think he has in mind this kind of idea: if the body is eating with a fork, and the eye lies to the hand about where the mouth is, why, the hand may stab the eye. In other words, when you deceive a fellow believer, it’s like deceiving yourself. When you mislead a believer, it means that the truth of God concerning the body of Christ hasn’t renewed the spirit of your mind.
When the truth concerning the reality of the body of Christ and your part in it really hits home and you believe it, the spirit of your mind will be transformed about how you act toward other believers. When the truth of the body of Christ renews the spirit of your mind, you will no more intentionally lie to a brother or sister in Christ than you will intentionally close your own eyes while trying to adjust the blade on a live buzz saw.
Summary and Application
Let’s end with this summary and application: With the possible exception of very extreme, life-threatening situations, lying is part of the corrupt old nature. It is caused by desires that come from the deceit of Satan about what is truly desirable. And therefore it should be stripped off with the old nature in ALL our relationships. But especially in the church!
Let every vestige of the deceitful old nature be put away! In the church, let’s not have any lying to each other, or hypocrisy, or duplicity, or deception, or varnishing the truth, or evasiveness, or equivocation. Let’s not be like that at Bethlehem!
But instead let’s be candid with each other, and straightforward, and plain, and frank, and open, and real, and unaffected, and accurate, and truthful, and honest. Let’s walk in the light as he is in the light. In every board and committee meeting and every business meeting let’s be open and above-board and straight-out in our dealings, and especially in our leadership.
I have tried my best in my six years here to set an example of honest and up-front and straight-forward and candid leadership in my involvement with the staff and the Council of Deacons and in all our meetings and in the weekly newsletter. To my knowledge I have never had an agenda that I have hidden from the Council of Deacons, nor ever come to a congregational meeting of this church without the readiness and commitment to answer every question asked with honesty and fullness to the best of my ability. And I believe that by and large this is the spirit of our church. And I pray that this will increase and grow.
Be renewed in the spirit of your mind by trusting in the promises of God and by remembering the body of Christ. And let us put away all falsehood, speaking truth to our neighbor, for we are members one of another. This is our new nature, the creation of God in true righteousness and holiness. Perhaps the children of the world will see and come to glorify our Father in heaven. Amen.
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Used by permission: John Piper. © Desiring God. Website: desiringGod.org
John Wesley’s Notes on Ephesians 4
Ephesians 4
Verse 1. I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord – Imprisoned for his sake and for your sakes; for the sake of the gospel which he had preached amongst them. This was therefore a powerful motive to them to comfort him under it by their obedience.
Verse 3. endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit – That mutual union and harmony, which is a fruit of the Spirit. The bond of peace is love.
Verse 4. There is one body – The universal church, all believers throughout the world. One Spirit, one Lord, one God and Father – The ever-blessed Trinity. One hope – Of heaven.
Verse 5. One outward baptism.
Verse 6. One God and Father of all – That believe. Who is above all – Presiding over all his children, operating through them all by Christ, and dwelling in all by his Spirit.
Verse 7. According to the measure of the gift of Christ – According as Christ is pleased to give to each.
Verse 8. Wherefore he saith – That is, in reference to which God saith by David, Having ascended on high, he led captivity captive – He triumphed over all his enemies, Satan, sin, and death, which had before enslaved all the world: alluding to the custom of ancient conquerors, who led those they had conquered in chains after them. And, as they also used to give donatives to the people, at their return from victory, so he gave gifts to men – Both the ordinary and extraordinary gifts of the Spirit. Psalm lxviii, 18.
Verse 9. Now this expression, He ascended, what is it, but that he descended – That is, does it not imply, that he descended first? Certainly it does, on the supposition of his being God. Otherwise it would not: since all the saints will ascend to heaven, though none of them descended thence. Into the lower parts of the earth – So the womb is called, Psalm cxxxix, 5; the grave, Psalm lxiii, 9.
Verse 10. He that descended – That thus amazingly humbled himself. Is the same that ascended – That was so highly exalted. That he might fill all things – The whole church, with his Spirit, presence, and operations.
Verse 11. And, among other his free gifts, he gave some apostles – His chief ministers and special witnesses, as having seen him after his resurrection, and received their commission immediately from him. And same prophets, and some evangelists – A prophet testifies of things to come; an evangelist of things past: and that chiefly by preaching the gospel before or after any of the apostles. All these were extraordinary officers. The ordinary were. Some pastors – Watching over their several flocks. And some teachers – Whether of the same or a lower order, to assist them, as occasion might require.
Verse 12. In this verse is noted the office of ministers; in the next, the aim of the saints; in the 14th, 15th, 16th, the way of growing in grace. And each of these has three parts, standing in the same order. For the perfecting the saints – The completing them both in number and their various gifts and graces. To the work of the ministry – The serving God and his church in their various ministrations. To the edifying of the body of Christ – The building up this his mystical body in faith, love, holiness.
Verse 13. Till we all – And every one of us. Come to the unity of the faith, and knowledge of the Son of God – To both an exact agreement in the Christian doctrine, and an experimental knowledge of Christ as the Son of God. To a perfect man – To a state of spiritual manhood both in understanding and strength. To the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ – To that maturity of age and spiritual stature wherein we shall be filled with Christ, so that he will be all in all.
Verse 14. Fluctuating to and fro – From within, even when there is no wind. And carried about with every wind – From without; when we are assaulted by others, who are unstable as the wind. By the sleight of men – By their “cogging the dice;” so the original word implies.
Verse 15. Into him – Into his image and Spirit, and into a full union with him.
Verse 16. From whom the whole mystical body fitly joined together – All the parts being fitted for and adapted to each other, and most exactly harmonizing with the whole. And compacted – Knit and cemented together with the utmost firmness. Maketh increase by that which every joint supplieth – Or by the mutual help of every joint. According to the effectual working in the measure of every member – According as every member in its measure effectually works for the support and growth of the whole. A beautiful allusion to the human body, composed of different joints and members, knit together by various ligaments, and furnished with vessels of communication from the head to every part.
Verse 17. This therefore I say – He returns thither where he begun, ver. Verse 1. And testify in the Lord – In the name and by the authority of the Lord Jesus. In the vanity of their mind – Having lost the knowledge of the true God, Rom. i, 21. This is the root of all evil walking.
Verse 18. Having their understanding darkened, through the ignorance that is in them – So that they are totally void of the light of God, neither have they any knowledge of his will. Being alienated from the life of God – Utter strangers to the divine, the spiritual life. Through the hardness of their hearts – Callous and senseless. And where there is no sense, there can be no life.
Verse 19. Who being past feeling – The original word is peculiarly significant. It properly means, past feeling pain. Pain urges the sick to seek a remedy, which, where there is no pain, is little thought of. Have given themselves up – Freely, of their own accord. Lasciviousness is but one branch of uncleanness, which implies impurity of every kind.
Verse 20. But ye have not so learned Christ – That is, ye cannot act thus, now ye know him, since you know the Christian dispensation allows of no sin.
Verse 21. Seeing ye have heard him – Teaching you inwardly by his Spirit. As the truth is in Jesus – According to his own gospel.
Verse 22. The old man – That is, the whole body of sin. All sinful desires are deceitful; promising the happiness which they cannot give.
Verse 23. The spirit of your mind – The very ground of your heart.
Verse 24. The new man – Universal holiness. After – In the very image of God.
Verse 25. Wherefore – Seeing ye are thus created anew, walk accordingly, in every particular. For we are members one of another – To which intimate union all deceit is quite repugnant.
Verse 26. Be ye angry, and sin not – That is, if ye are angry, take heed ye sin not. Anger at sin is not evil; but we should feel only pity to the sinner. If we are angry at the person, as well as the fault, we sin. And how hardly do we avoid it. Let not the sun go down upon your wrath – Reprove your brother, and be reconciled immediately. Lose not one day. A clear, express command. Reader, do you keep it?
Verse 27. Neither give place to the devil – By any delay.
Verse 28. But rather let him labour – Lest idleness lead him to steal again. And whoever has sinned in any kind ought the more zealously to practice the opposite virtue. That he may have to give – And so be no longer a burden and nuisance, but a blessing, to his neighbours.
Verse 29. But that which is good – Profitable to the speaker and hearers. To the use of edifying – To forward them in repentance, faith, or holiness. That it may minister grace – Be a means of conveying more grace into their hearts. Hence we learn, what discourse is corrupt, as it were stinking in the nostrils of God; namely, all that is not profitable, not edifying, not apt to minister grace to the hearers.
Verse 30. Grieve not the Holy Spirit – By any disobedience. Particularly by corrupt discourse; or by any of the following sins. Do not force him to withdraw from you, as a friend does whom you grieve by unkind behaviour. The day of redemption – That is, the day of judgment, in which our redemption will be completed.
Verse 31. Let all bitterness – The height of settled anger, opposite to kindness, ver. 32. And wrath – Lasting displeasure toward the ignorant, and them that are out of the way, opposite to tenderheartedness. And anger – The very first risings of disgust at those that injure you, opposite to forgiving one another. And clamour – Or bawling. “I am not angry,” says one; “but it is my way to speak so.” Then unlearn that way: it is the way to hell. And evil speaking – Be it in ever so mild and soft a tone, or with ever such professions of kindness. Here is a beautiful retrogradation, beginning with the highest, and descending to the lowest, degree of the want of love.
Verse 32. As God, showing himself kind and tenderhearted in the highest degree, hath forgiven you.